It’s almost Thanksgiving! I really love this holiday. And yes, while it’s definitely about gathering with loved ones and eating amazing food (I love Stove Top stuffing, sorry not sorry), it’s truly about gratitude and reflecting on what we’re thankful for.
Gratitude is something I’ve been working on this year. Whenever I’ve felt negative, discouraged, or even jealous, I’ve tried to make a list (mental or tangible) of the things I’m grateful for. And it really works.
So, as I got to thinking about what I’m most thankful for this year, I recalled one instant back in March that really stood out to me.
Somebody told me “no.”
Wait, what? “No” is typically a bad thing, right? That’s what I’ve always thought. I mean, think about it: we’ve hated hearing the word “no” since childhood. Nobody wants to ask for something, or work for something, just to have somebody turn around and deny us. We want to get what we want, and when someone denies us that, it can feel like the end of the world.
Or it can be the beginning of something great.
Back in March, an opportunity came to me that was, in the words of Massie Block, ah-mazing. It was a dream, and it was something I’d worked hard for, and I really thought it was going to come to fruition. I really thought I had a chance at a “yes.” Everything was going perfectly, at least in my eyes.
So I waited for a final answer on this opportunity. One week. Two weeks. Three.
And then, I got an email. It wasn’t going to happen.
So, I cried. I’ll admit it: I thought I had it. I truly did. My gut was saying “Yes. This is going to happen.” But, it didn’t. I got a “no.”
That night, I mulled over everything that had happened to lead up to this point and what I should’ve done, and what I might have done wrong. Literally, everything.
And then the next day, I woke up and thought: I’m going to be a freelance writer.
And I didn’t look back. Now, as we approach Thanksgiving, I’ve built up my own client base and launched my own business, NOVA Content Writing, seven months later.
Thank God they told me “no.”
Would it have been a great opportunity to pursue? Absolutely. Would I have loved it? Yes, I think so. Did other people dream of something like it? I did. But it was not meant for me. The path it would have taken me on was not my destiny. God’s will had, and has, me going somewhere else. Somewhere that I create.
All in all, I wanted this to serve as encouragement to those who might feel defeated from getting a no, or things not working out the way they had hoped. Trust me, sometimes you’ll look back and be grateful they didn’t go that way.
I definitely am.
So, as I reflect on what I’m thankful for, I’d say I’m thankful for incredible family and friends who have supported me. I’m thankful to have awesome clients who believe in my work. I’m thankful to have blue light glasses that prevent my brain from melting as I’ve spent nights and weekends grinding away for several months.
But maybe most of all, I’m thankful that somebody told me “no.”
I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and thanks for reading!