Dreams, Inspiration, Lifestyle

You can be vulnerable & strong at the same time

A couple of people have told me I’m gullible.

Eh, kind of. At first, I was like *surprised Pikachu face*, but I look at it a different way.

I just trust people. I trust what people say is true, and that they mean what they say. I trust someone until they give me a reason not to.

Over the last few years, I’ve truly seen how people lie. White lies, sure, everyone tells those. But I learned that sometimes people really, really lie. They do shady things. They betray you. They blindside you. And, side note, my consumption of true crime doesn’t help me in thinking that people are honest.

I’m not saying I’m perfect. Far from it. But here’s where I’m going with this: just because people have lied to me or made me feel gullible doesn’t mean I’m going to stop trusting people.

I used to believe you could either be dumb and trusting and gullible, or cold and tough and cynical. And, hey, after experiencing the not-so-pretty parts of people, I considered being the latter. But I recently spoke with a woman whom I really look up to, and she told me that yes, you can be sensitive and kind while also being strong and not letting people walk all over you.

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Dreams, Inspiration, Lifestyle

25 things I’ve learned in 25 years

It’s here. I’m 25 years old. This number has always been good to me, and I’m not sure why. The day my now-husband and I started dating was Jan. 25. We got engaged on Christmas, which is Dec. 25. I bought my first car on Nov. 25. My license plate has 25 in it, randomly. I got my first manuscript request on July 25, which is also my cat’s birthday.

So for those reasons, I’m excited for my 25th year. Keeping up with a tradition I started last year, I’m writing today 25 things I’ve learned in 25 years (Most having happened in the past year. Gotta keep it fresh).

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Inspiration, Lifestyle, Writing

These things (and people) will change

People don’t change.

That’s what I used to think and believe. But as you can probably surmise from the headline of this blog post, I clearly don’t believe that anymore.

I’ll back up a bit. I think when I’d say “people don’t change,” I was being too absolute. When I said “people don’t change,” I think I meant that their actions don’t change. Their vices don’t change. I thought if you had a friend who’s a constant gossip, they’ll probably always be that way and continue to talk about other people negatively (and likely, you, too) and try to get into your business. I thought if you had a boyfriend cheat, they’d probably do it again and it’s best to hit the road so you can avoid another massive unpleasantry. I thought if you knew someone who would always criticize you, well, they’d probably keep at it.

While some of those examples I still kind of believe are true, I realized something in the past few weeks. Certain aspects of people, like their personality, likely won’t change (in my opinion). But, the way people react to, view and approach situations in their lives will, because of the inevitability of life experience.

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